Dictionary Definition of a Courtesan: "A skilled and socially adept provider of sexual intimacy, erotic companionship, and sacred healing, particularly when highly compensated and respected, for example in a court or high society setting. A woman,transsexual ,male or hermaphrodite who cohabits with an important man or woman."
Courtesans are above all DISCREET. Anyone claiming to be a 'courtesan' then giving interviews to papers and magazines, or waxing about their clientele is not a courtesan, but a high class escort who got lucky; no VIP client will risk time with a 'big-mouth'. A modern day courtesan encompasses a little more substance than her business-savvy predecessors: The common idea is that a courtesan was just that little bit more educated, stylish, youthful, physically beautiful and talented. But in this day and age, it is so much more.
A true 'Courtesan Onesto' (honest courtesan) is someone who is more beautiful inside than she is outside, regardless of how beautiful she might be. She is often unaware of the extent of her outer beauty, and is more concerned with bringing kindness, pleasure and happiness into people's lives, not living off an ego, or putting others down to make herself look better.
She is a whole, wise woman, confident in herself, who brings inspiration, serenity and integrity, not corruption, bitterness and slander. She also chooses to be a pleasure provider and sexual healer, she is not someone who 'has' to do things she does not enjoy, in order to pay her bills/ support her family/ habit, make ends meet. She provides a higher quality experience than a high class escort experience or a girlfriend experience.
A courtesan truly is reserved for the most selective and refined gentleman. She invests extensively in her art; from her designer presentation and immaculate beauty, to her classes in deportment and etiquette, wine and art appreciation, in addition to her excellent schooling. She invests in music knowledge and dance abilities; she will usually speak several languages, play at least one instrument, and have the ability to put on such erotic entertainment shows as you might expect from a professional cabaret or talented burlesque show.
This talent comes from extensive training, rehearsal and practice to perfect the dynamic and seductive performance section of the appointment. She is dynamic, unforgettable, more than the average pretty, intelligent companion. She is a consummate entertainer, and considers herself an entertainer, whether desire enters her service or not. This is a confident, prudent and sensual woman who understands she has a lot to give, and derives immense pleasure from giving, an inherently sexual being. She derives unique pleasure from knowing she has made a positive difference in her gentleman's life. The fee she is paid is simply the cherry on top; she is less concerned with the money so much as the mutual joy and quality of pleasure that can be achieved.
She is someone who is extremely vigilant in her care of herself. She understands her body is the housing for her beautiful soul, and deserves the very best treatment. She does not degrade herself or disparage her body by taking illicit drugs or getting rolling drunk every weekend. This is someone with a healthy mind, who consciously eats well, exercises regularly, and makes intelligent, prudent choices about where she goes, whom she allows to socialize with her and what she subjects her body/ skin/ mind to. She strives to make her appearance match the beauty within, rather than the other way around...
She is careful to speak beautifully, both pronouncing well and addressing subjects tactfully, articulately expressing herself in a wide vocabulary, with little or no obscenities. She leaves that for the occasional dirty talk in the bedroom. She carefully selects her clothing, preferring an understated, discreet, classic look, with sleek, smooth lines. She would never be called 'tasteless' in her clothing, as she knows the difference between elegantly sexy and trashy. Skirts are appealingly short, but not too short - another reason why this level of service is best suited to younger women; at a certain age, a woman of quality realizes she can no longer look graceful and tasteful in a skirt above her knees, regardless of how well she has preserved her figure... mutton dressed as lamb is never dignified.
The fresh, youthful courtesan's quality attire is graceful, fitted but not tight, in muted, non-offensive shades. Patterns are kept simple and to a minimum, whilst her jewelry, make up and scent are tastefully light. Shoes are firm, well heeled, tasteful, closed toe stilettos of medium height, nothing clacky or strappy, which might draw public attention to her. A clear, immaculate, natural, wholesome image is her aim. She will usually bring more erotic heels and outfits with her to wear throughout her entertainments, but her public image is clean cut, lady like & discreet. Her erotic side is only for the viewing pleasure of her selected gentlemen, again reinforcing her exclusivity.
She is, ironically, a rather moral woman, who sets her boundaries and cannot be 'bought'. Any woman who agrees to do extra things she would not normally do, or which she knows will hurt others or go against her friends or principles, for extra money, does not possess the class of a courtesan. A courtesan is a woman of integrity, intelligence and honesty. She is a true businesswoman, and understands the way her business works. She is a woman of responsibility, and likes to do the 'right thing' where possible, preferring to be thought of in the best possible light by all who know her.
She does not see bringing pleasure to a man in need of affection as 'wrong'. She has nothing to hide, and whilst she prizes discretion highly, she does not like to associate with those she feels she must keep things from, apart from family. She is a 'stand-up' individual in lay terms, who would never demean herself or her reputation by allowing herself to become greedy, and becoming a humiliated play-thing who will do almost anything for money. This is the saddest position a woman can ever put herself in. Creating packages for longer periods of mutual enjoyment is one thing, but accepting offers of extra money for things she would not usually do is out of the question, and the gentleman would not be permitted into her presence again. A good rule of thumb for a courtesan is; If you wouldn't do it for free, just for the fun of it, then don't do it for money.
A courtesan understands her reputation and image depends upon her behavior at all times. She does not behave like a lady when she is entertaining, and then relax into sloppiness when she is not entertaining. She is aware of the fact that how she lives is reflected in her overall look, presentation, attitude and demeanor, and she is someone who lives well and behaves appropriately continually to all, not just in the eyes of those she is trying to impress.
She is a genuinely elite, quality woman of high standards in all aspects, at all times. A woman,man,transsexual or hermaphrodite like this has too much class to ever make anyone feel uncomfortable. She will be gracious, and comfortable to converse politely with everyone from Diplomats & celebrities to her local store owner & personal maid. She would never do anything to embarrass or hurt another individual for selfish, proud or greedy reasons. She is in fact usually more concerned for others' comforts than her own, thus entirely unselfish, whilst maintaining her own healthy, humble level of self respect and esteem.
Whilst onlookers and attempted competition might try to raise their fees in order to pass themselves off as the same, one cannot fake class, and they are soon discovered by the genuinely elite gentlemen to be frauds. The men with more money than knowledge, to be pitied, might utilize the imposters' services, but it will be a rather unfulfilling, sad and degrading service for all involved if he is expecting true courtesan service. Since the true Courtesan is more sexually and professionally talented, of higher quality overall and her genuine affections and company in demand, her fee will of course be higher, but it is a token, a joke between the two, simply to extract the genuinely successful, deserving gentlemen from the crowds of men who want her. Her gentleman pays his fee to gain her favor, a gift of good faith toward his ability to please her.
Generally the gentlemen whom have achieved such financial success are those who have the charm and sophistication to match her own, and the knowledge of women to properly appreciate and thoroughly enjoy all the different entertainments of his chosen female, not embarrass or insult her with the pouncing of an inexperienced youth, ignoring her exquisite attire, her intoxicating scent, and the efforts she has gone to, to seduce him. He will be a gentleman at all times, as they both respect the mutual unspoken laws of tasteful togetherness. He would never verbally insult her or physically abuse her, or expect her to do things she would not normally do. He does not treat her like a blow up doll or a trained monkey, nor would he refuse her the freedom to entertain him at her pleasure.
There is a special connection, and emotional touch that occurs between the courtesan and her chosen client. They rarely spend small amounts of time together when they connect; they enhance each others' lives, and when they are together it is almost like Romeo and Juliet re-connecting, high school young-at-hearts stealing away together to experience a little more romance. It is not a 'service' situation so much as an affectionate human bond that is formed between them.
A courtesan client is rarely looking for an hour or two to enjoy company, service and sex. He is searching for that connection, needing to be refilled and enhanced emotionally. Just as hundreds of different positions within the intimacy period is not conducive to a sensual, sexually healing encounter, so a different girl every time, or short bursts of service is not conducive to these special connections. A courtesan client may see different models, but will usually continue to see the same models again and again, to further the connection they have established. True intimacy and sexual healing or growth is rarely achieved with multitudes of partners, or brief encounters with them.
A gentleman will always defer to a lady's preference within reason, as any intelligent man knows, when a quality lady is happy, her gentleman is kept very happy! A client may often find himself falling in love with her, but needs to remember this is not real - this is why he pays for her company. We are providing the illusion, the fantasy of perfection. He pays for her eternally good mood and giving behavior :-) There is a reason why she is his fantasy woman, and why that ends when they become too close. She is rarely in a position to want to be 'rescued' anyway, as she has chosen and prefers this life for now - her dynamic spirit is due to the freedom she enjoys in her current lifestyle, and most importantly, the time she has to herself to refresh her soul and remain exclusive to her booking gentlemen. Try catching a free butterfly and keeping it in a cage - it doesn't stay vibrant for long... She may settle down in time, but only when she is ready, and rarely with a man who has paid her for her time in the past. Theirs is a respected, caring business relationship, and nothing more. They may genuinely care for each other, but a life together is impractical.
This unique client selection practice is what keeps the courtesan exclusive to her elite gentlemen. The woman who accepts all requests just to get as much money as possible, soon sadly loses her exclusivity and is no longer considered an option for the elite gentleman, who understands the difference. Like minded people are brought together at Mona Lisa Modelsâ"¢, where the price is not so important as the perfect match and these continual quality experiences, a step above the typical. The difference in any successful relationship, be it part time or full time, is giving or taking. When both are giving, for the pleasure they receive from their partner's joy, without expecting anything in return but knowing they have brought pleasure to another, this is successful.
When both are taking, in it for what they can get from the other, there is only pain, disappointment and bitterness in their future.When one is giving and one is taking, if the giver is happy to never receive, it can work, but anyone with any self respect would never stay in a relationship of this nature, it is unhealthy. A natural and healthy connection is where both are giving, therefore they both receive by default, and get the additional pleasure from giving.
Quality courtesans are powerful women, and having men pay for company/entertainment is something that builds confidence and self esteem. Sex as a professional has a quality that one just can't experience in personal sexuality. It is a quality that is very erotic for both men and women. The act of giving and receiving money potentially for sexual experiences creates a highly charged sexual atmosphere. It is a very deliberate sexual act that eliminates many other extraneous factors that distract one's focus from pure sexuality. Let your inhibitions go and enjoy yourself. |
